#22 Splurge on Something Sparkly

There is a reason why they say diamonds are a girls' best friend - the sight of something sparkly just makes our heart skip a beat, plus the sparkle attracts the eye, thus hopefully drawing some male attention our way ;)

While diamonds are nice... I am an equal jewelry-wearer.  Blue topaz, amethyst, rubies - they all get my attention, although maybe only for a few hours before I swap one out for another pretty bauble in my jewelry box.

So this post - #22 Splurge on Something Sparkly - could go in a variety of different ways.  I enlisted your help with a poll. I gave you a couple of options and asked for you to vote on what I should splurge on for my next birthday gift to myself.

The options included:

1. A Michael Kors watch, such as this gold one or this silver one 
2. These Gold CZ and green onyx starfish earrings 
3. The Apple iPad (not traditionally what you would think of as "sparkly", but has that same effect)
4. A gorgeous David Yurman ring (way out of my price range) 

Now, what I found funny/interesting is that a lot of you voted for the gorgeous and way-out-of-my-price-range David Yurman ring! But, we ended in a tie... and I chose the item that tied for the David Yurman ring.

Drumroll please...


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I splurged on the Apple iPad.  Now, before you get upset at my choice, listen to why.  I decided to go with the iPad over a piece of jewelry for a couple of reasons... budget and practicality.  While a big piece of bling might make my heart sing, so does the iPad.  Seriously.  You open up the box, and you hear angels singing "Ahhh!!!".  And then you turn it on, and it's shiny, and you can play games and watch movies and read books and be entertained on 5 hour long flights... and I didn't want to take my heavy laptop (also a Mac) to Ecuador, so I decided to get a very light iPad that easily fit in to my purse and didn't break my back lugging it all over the world.  Finally, it cost less than the David Yurman ring (but not by much hahah).

I went to the incredible new Apple Store at Grand Central Station.  It's not like any other store... it's completely open air, no doors... you just walk up a set of stairs and boom.  Apple products and Apple personnel all over the place, as well as envious people wanting to buy Apple products!

I arrived, walked directly up to the counter, and said "I want a 32gig black iPad, and a camera connection, and a iPad cover. Stat."  And they got it for me.  Stat.  $800 later, I was leaving Grand Central, and on my way back to Hoboken to finish packing for my trip to Ecuador, and to play with my new toy :).

The iPad was perfect for the long trip.  I was able to read a ton of books, watch movies, and free up space on my camera so that I could continue taking endless quantities of pictures of the Galapagos Islands.

I'm very happy with my splurge.   Useful, shiny, has the "wow" factor... perfect for me.  But, I want to know what you think?  Do you agree with my decision?  Are you disappointed that I didn't splurge on a piece of jewelry?  You know, my birthday is coming up soon ;) hehehe...

Week 6 Update

Week Six was PACKED. This will have to be a quick update, as I was going to blog last night, but  drank too much water after my race, got an "electrolyte imbalance", and spent the rest of the day and evening with a raging headache and in bed.

I completed (and blogged) #27 and #2, so make sure to check those out!  I'm "off" for 2 weeks as I'm working on #11 :)

Progress so far:

#7: Gran Fondo.  DONE!  Blog post to follow.

#9: 30 new recipes: 12 of 30 recipes cooked (36.67%) - one new this week... I made raspberry mojitos and they were yummy!! 

#10: Blog each of these post: 6 out of 30 (20%)

#22: Splurge on something sparkly.  DONE.  Purchase acquired... but now you have to wait 2 weeks til I get back from vacay to find out what it was ;)

#29: 4 of 30 books read! (13.3%) - One new book read: "Galapagos" by Kurt Vonnegut.  Very timely considering my upcoming trip!!!

7 weeks to go. 1 dream vacation. 18 recipes. 24 post. 26 books. 30 hours of community service. A tons of memorable experiences left!!!

#2 Guest bartend

See... I like bars.  A lot.  I spend a lot of time in them.  You know, just sitting there, minding my own business.  So when I learned that I, a non-experienced regular non-bartender, could be a guest bartender, well... Thank you, Public House NYC, for giving me the opportunity to be on the other side of the wooden slab.  It was SO FREAKING COOL.  I had one of the best nights ever.  And, I completed one of my challenges - #2 Guest bartend.  I want to do it again.  Every week ;)

Just to prove that I did this at a real establishment, I took a picture of the outside. Public House is a few blocks from Grand Central, so it's perfect for commuters wanting a happy hour environment before they head home:

So, how did I get this opportunity?  My girlfriend Hannah from work. One day we were having lunch and she mentioned that she had recently guest bartended and had so much fun.  The rest is history!

 

On the day of the event, Hannah and I walk in for our 6pm shift.  We head over to the bar, and get ushered behind it so that Rob, super nice and the coordinator of the guest bartender "program", could give us a crash course in bar tending.  It's overwhelming.  He tells us how to work the two different registers, what the 4 different happy hour specials are (what the times are, the costs of the various drinks, the different wrist band colors), how the order of liquor bottles in the "well" drinks section is set up (from left to right you have vodka, rum, tequila, whiskey, head spinning), how to pour a beer (HA I knew that already ;) ), and how to "open" a check... by 6:05, I'm offering customers refills on their beer. I'm slightly overwhelmed and nervous about what the night will hold, but baby I'm faking it til I make it. 

Rob gives Hannah and me the corner space in the "L" shaped bar, which is beneficial because it limits the traffic to our area... perfect for just starting out!  We even had a dedicated bar back dedicated, Angel, who he kept pouring us mystery shots...

Over the course of the 3 hour shift, several groups of friends show up in support.  My friend Fran challenges me to make a vodka martini... and I sucked at it.  Lesson learned - a little Vermouth means a teensy splash of Vermouth.  =)  I also get to close out a check, and use one of the little black padfolios to make it look official!

When the shift ended at 9, I wanted to keep going. I wanted more clients so I was busier and able to pour more drinks.  But, alas, all good things come to an end, and so I joined my friends back on the "other side":

I had SO MUCH FUN.  I felt in my element, running around like crazy, pouring drafts, making change, collecting tips, smiling and flirting with clients... It was different being on the other side and observing the groups of friends have conversations that I wasn't part of... typically I'm the one waiting (im)patiently for a refill or figuring out how much tip to leave.  On the other side, I was just looking for someone to serve another beer to, or to smile and flirt with, and was grateful when a few dollars were left behind.


A HUGE thank you to Kim, Leif, Justin E, Peter and friend, Maggie and friend, Katrin, Shaina, JamesJ, Eric "Biebs", Fran, and Justin R for coming out to support me!!!! You guys gave incredible tips, and were also nice to me when you wanted a Manhattan and I begged you to take a Makers Mark and ginger instead.  :)

To put the icing on the cake, I found out that I actually get a share in the tips.... below is a pic... Not too bad for a newbie, eh?  :)

#27 Go visit a psychic and get my cards read

In March, I took a mini Spring Break vacay to South Beach with one of my fabulous girlfriends "She na na na".  Her real name is Naomi, and she's actually a super serious lawyer, but in her downtime, she's crazy and AMAY-ZING, which translates to tons of fun. 

Anyway, while in South Beach, we walked past a store that advertised Tarot Card reading, walked in to get a quote and promptly walked out after hearing the price. We decided to go speak to a bartender, which was equally therapeutic, and for WAY less.

But still.  The idea of getting my cards read was intriguing. Hence #27, getting my cards read.  And, to make it even better, I found a deal on pulsdjfk.com for a 60 minute Tarot Card and Psychic Reading, and for 60% off.  Can't argue with a coupon!

So, I met with the lovely Veronica on a Tuesday afternoon after work. I tried to look like a fashionable 30 year old (#23), and Veronica commented that I did look "successful", so yay, maybe it's actually working! Back to the story: Here's how getting my cards read unfolded:

1. I arrive.
2. I go in to a private room.  Said room is not hung with drapes, no crystal ball, no head scarf.  Just a plain room with a plain ole desk and chairs, a normal looking girl, and a deck of cards.
3. Veronica and I greet each other, shake hands, say hi, how you doing, nice to meet you, etc.
4. We sit down at previously mentioned desk.
5. She asks me to shuffle the cards.  I shuffle twice, then cut once.
6. She starts picking cards from the top of the pile.  She lays out the cards, one by one, and the first word she says after looking at the cards is...

...self sabotage.  She sees the look on my face and immediately blurts out that she's shocked to see the self doubt in the cards, because I have such a good aura, gorgeous hair, beautiful blue eyes (my confidence is starting to go back up slightly), sees that I'm successful, but... I have a lot of self defeating thoughts. I could be more. I have a fear that's holding me back, an apprehension to break free, and I am "safe" where I am.  Later on, she tells me she saw that because of all the cards with knives/swords...

So... that pretty much knocked me on my booty.  See, I went in to this reading thinking it would be a fun experience, but was definitely not planning on taking it seriously.  I'm still not sure I will be, but when the first word she says to me is "self sabotage", my first thought was "Have you been reading the diaries that I have not been writing?!?!"  When I told my sister about it, she also said "Wow", twice.  So the fact that this lovely stranger hit the f'ing nail on the head on the freaking first word?!?!  Wow is an understatement.


So now I'm taking this seriously.  After the initial reading, we reshuffle the cards, and start to delve in to specific topics based on my questions.  Of course, we all want to know about career and love, so I asked those first.  From a career standpoint, she says I need to explore being an entrepreneur in a creative field, as my current job is "suppressing my spirit"... She sees me doing something creative, something with movement, something kinda like Martha Stewart.  She told me that I'm too responsible and need to play more, be more "ludique", which is a Spanish word that means "fun".  She encouraged me to take classes, so that I can be inspired by doing things, such as cooking, dancing, painting, writing...

She then tells me she sees my career having something to do with children and kids. I start to look uncomfortable (again) and she reminds me to take this all with a grain of salt... seeing kids does not necessarily mean that it's a direct tie - it could be anything related to kids, maybe making toys or spring break.  But, she does think I'll have kids, maybe 2-3.  WTF.

The following card appeared in 3 of the 4 shuffles... the "ten of pentacles", which Veronica tells me relates to family... which is why she thinks all this "kids" stuff.

Next, she finally gives me some GOOD news!  She tells me "Don't ever worry about money.  You will always have money."  Finally! I'm definitely believing this part of the reading, fo sho. 

Then, we focus on LOVE.  She sees love creeping in with my new career... he's connected somehow. He's going to be the love of my life, the man of my dreams, and she sees him very soon in the future - as in 3-6 months.  But only if I explore new career opportunities.  She reiterates that I shouldn't quit tomorrow, but need to be more "ludique".

We do a few more shuffles over the rest of our hour together, and we continue to hit the same themes... me striking out on my own, how I need to have no fear, more details on Mr. Right, including that he'll be better than any past love... and that he'll really LOVE me.  She thinks we'll get engaged very quickly, and cautioned me to use protection HAHAHA.

She leaves me with a few last gems:

• My future life "looks so juicy!"  Push yourself!
• I have a lot of fantasies. Stop dreaming. Start doing.
• Don't "waste your talent".

So what do you think?  Do you think I should believe Veronica? Are you surprised about my self-defeating tendencies?  Do you know who my "Mr. Right" is?  Do you have any idea what I'm going to invent, or what my next career move is or should be?  Or do you think it's all a bunch of crock?  I welcome your thoughts... =)

Week Five update...

Wow.  Week Five, already??  Done.  Gone.  So little done, so much left to do!  Great news is that this week, I'll be knocking 3 things off the list - #27, #2, and #7!  And then I'm "off" for 2 weeks as I'll be working on #11 :) :) :)  Don't forget, this Thursday, come to Public House on 41st between 2nd and 3rd Avenue starting at 6pm to harass me while I guest bartend.  Please order easy stuff, like, eh... beer.  Or vodka tonic.  Maybe just vodka.  Kthnx.

Progress so far:

#7: Training for the Gran Fondo.  This is the week I started "tapering" with my training.  And perfect timing, as my knee was starting to become sore... so I'm pretty sure I'll "only do" the Medio Fondo, which is almost a metric century, but no worries.  60 is better than 0! Race is on Sunday....

 

#9: 30 new recipes: 11 of 30 recipes cooked (36.67%) - none new this week... still eating all the food I cooked last week :)

 

#10: Blog each of these post: 4 out of 30 (13.33%)

#29: 3 of 30 books read! (10%) - I finally finished "Game of Thrones" this past week... great book, but I will not be reading the second, third or fourth installment until AFTER this challenge is over =) .  I also read the first "Fifty Shades of Grey" book.  Wowser.  All I can say.  Wowser.

8 weeks to go. 19 recipes. 27 books. 26 posts. 30 hours of community service. And a whole lotta fun!!!  Wish me luck!

#23 Dress like I'm a (fashionable) 30 year old

There comes a time in one's life when you realize that, while you might still be able to wear short skirts and skimpy outfits, you probably shouldn't.  Except on girls-only trips to Vegas!  But back to the point... you probably shouldn't wear skimpy stuff anymore, not because you can't pull them off... but more so because it makes you look like an 18 year old.  And while we all love to get carded at bars, we didn't make it this far in our lives to have someone think we're 18, right?

Not that I wear skimpy clothing anymore, but really, I simply want to look more professional at work. I'm not a "fashionista".  I don't work at Vogue, and I don't pay much attention to my outfits.  My morning routine is press snooze, press snooze, press snooze, OH CRAP I'M GONNA BE LATE, quick shower, throw on pants, a top, and out the door!  Not much time to think about pulling an outfit together.  Even more embarrassing, I still have some of the outfits that I wore when I first started working 8 years ago.  There's something wrong with that, right?  I'm a successful, established professional with years of hard work under her belt.  I should start looking like it!

Enter #23 of my challenge.  Dress like a (fashionable) 30 year old.  Great.  I said it.  Now what?  What the hell does "dressing like a 30 year old" even mean?!?!

Naturally, I turned first to Google!  I googled "How to dress like a 30 year old".  Let me tell you - NOT MUCH OUT THERE on these topics.  I found two articles:

• An article on ehow.com, which I didn't find particularly helpful, and 
• A blog by a 30-year old Mom, which reinforced some of the points on the ehow.com article, and therefore wasn't extremely helpful either...(sorry blogger... your advice just doesn't fit with what I was looking for, not that you aren't helpful!)

Strike One. I revised my search...  Maybe I'm not looking for an instruction manual... Maybe I'm looking for more advice on how to be stylish? Inspired, I googled "30 year old style", and found a blog that reviewed a "How not to look old" book by Charla Krupp, who I guess is someone I should be taking style advice from?  (Sorry Charla, I'm pretty not-in-the-know when it comes to fashion).  Anyway, one of the comments on this blog post said "Honestly, this list isn’t very helpful. It seems like everything on it is either unsuitable at any adult age or suitable for all adult ages."

I agree.  NOT VERY HELPFUL.  (Plus, she bans flip flops, which are a main staple of my commuter wardrobe... sorry again, Charla!)  Strike Two.  Apparently research is not going to yield answers on what I should be wearing now that I'm 30.

Luckily, I have my friends, and I have Pinterest.  Pinterest is an online pinboard where you post images that inspire you.  I have boards such as "For my dream home", "Delicious eye candy" (see #16: Go on a date with a fireman ;)), "FOOOOD!", and, of course... "My style".

The "My style" board is not necessarily what I wear today... but more about what I think is gorgeous, and wish I was wearing... and like a lightbulb, it hit me... this is what I should be wearing. Brilliant, right?!?  Third times the charm!

Errr maybe not... I own nothing that's on my pinboard!  Haha...

But that's OK.  Examining My Style board, I've pinned a ton of dresses, items in blues/greens/purples, and a ton of "blingy" items... so clearly I should wear more dresses.  And more jewel-tone colors.  And more bling ;) (See #22, splurge on something sparkly!!!)

Great!  Now, I've got something to work with, and it's time to take inventory.  One look at my closet, and it's a mess.  Hard to see everything I have.  So, I CLEANED OUT MY CLOSET (and organized it).  I took the advice of the blogs I found via the Google search, and decided to eliminate the tube tops, mini skirts, and anything with "Juicy!" scrawled on the front (or back...)... and also took this opportunity to eliminate what doesn't fit, what I haven't worn in at least a year, and what I've never worn even though it may still have tags on it (DA$N DRUNK INTERNET SHOPPING!)  It was hard letting go... and I didn't let go of everything... but I did let go of a LOT of items, which is good progress.

One of the blogs recommended I wear pencil skirts, and that just doesn't work for me (they're super cute, but don't flatter my figure). The benefit of being (almost) 30 is that you've had years to figure out what does work for you...

• Wrap dresses and A-line skirts
• "Royal" jewel colors in ruby, emerald, sapphire and amethyst
• Jewelry for the "bling" effect
• Staples: skinny jeans, riding boots, black and white tees/tanks, black/navy/grey suits

So the end result of taking on this challenge: I figured out that you need to find what works for you, and not what you think you should be wearing (or what some blogger tells you you should be wearing).  I did add a few items to my wardrobe that reflect my likes: a few dresses, jeweled colored items, and staples (hello new work suit!).  Before I go to bed, I'm putting together my outfits, including accessories... that way even if I press snooze a million times, I'll still be able to look like I spent time to pull myself together.

As always... I welcome your comments...What do you think? For those of you who see me in work clothes, have you noticed a difference?  =) Any recommendations on what else I should be wearing?

Week Four Update

As Week Four comes to a close, I feel woefully behind on completing this challenge.  But that's why they call it a challenge, right?  I had planned on doing two posts, but one got rescheduled to May 15th, and one happened on a day when work blew up, so I missed it (was supposed to volunteer at the hoboken homeless shelter, sigh...) But that's life.

Training for the Gran Fondo is going well... I completed a 67 mile ride, and have just two weeks left before the big day.  Also coming up in the next few weeks: a date with a psychic to get my cards read, guest bartending, and traveling to the Galapagos Islands!!!

One success I had: I made SEVEN new recipes... Shrimp Fra Diavlo over whole wheat pasta,  Apricot and cheese strudel, Mahi mahi tacos with a mango avocado salsa, Shrimp and chocolate tortilla soup, and Julia Child's Boeuf Bourguignon, JC's Sauteed Mushrooms, and JC's Beef-braised Onions. 

I need your help!
#22 on my list is to splurge on something sparkly... so I'm creating a new poll (check it out on the right!).  You have four options - what do you think I should splurge on? (Please don't think of me as super-materialistic... I simply have a tradition of buying myself a gift for my birthday/Christmas rolled in to one :) )

Option A: A Michael Kors watch, such as this gold one or this silver one
Option B: These Gold CZ and green onyx starfish earrings
Option C: Not traditionally what you would think of as "sparkly", but has that same effect
Option D: Way out of my price range... a gorgeous David Yurman ring (part of me really wants you to pick this one so I HAVE to get it, but my budget would definitely cry... sigh.  Responsibilities suck, huh?) Maybe this one as a less expensive alternative?

What do you think?  Don't forget to vote in my poll!